Recently, i was talking to my friend about some of the things she had done that were less than pure. I'm not saying she was a bad person (I would never try to shame someone), she is just the first to admit that she had made some bad choices in a past relationship. Now being her friend and good human being, I remained neutral... on the outside. I couldn't help but wonder what she was thinking when she let her desire win. My heart burned with frustration [and honestly looking back, maybe a bit of jealousy for the fact that she had a boyfriend at the time while I had not] at her and the male counterpart for acting like they were followers of God when they couldn't even follow a basic rule:
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband.Hebrews 13 

I voiced my concern by asking her if she knew what modesty was (so maybe it was a little sarcastic) and she looked at me questionably and replied, "Is that like the same as honesty?" I scoffed [Also was a bit pretentious in high school :( ] "No!" and rattled off words like purity and humble and guarding herself from the secular and vanity of the world. And that was the end of that discussion. But I spent a lot of that day thinking about how I reacted in that situation and realized how wrong I was.
My first fault was to think of her as a hypocrite. I'm not perfect either and I shouldn't have judged her, because a sin is a sin, no matter the size. She was pretty embarrassed sharing this information and i should have been there to listen, rather than criticize.

And when i think back on that day, I come to the conclusion that she had a pretty accurate definition of what it meant to be modest. Her idea was probably closer to God's definition than mine.
Modesty comes down to being an honest person and living the life that is true to God. 

Honest: honorable in principles, intentions, and actions; upright and fair: an honest person. genuine, respectable; having a good reputation.truthful or creditable

If you live by His Word and follow His commands, you will never need to worry whether you are being modest. Being modest means being pure, decent, moral, chaste, humble, calm, reputable, and honest. These things should be considered when you do whatever you do, but is not limited to just your actions. It is also important to monitor what you wear (and how little you wear), say, listen to, watch, and how you treat yourself and others.
Don't wait any longer to rid yourself of your immorality and become a respectable child of God. 
Of course we all mess up sometimes and have trouble figuring out what is right for us. In this corrupted world, a pure light can be hard to find. Don't allow superficial things or people change or influence your faith. Stand up for what you believe and avoid the temptations and/or wrongs that media, pop culture, fashion or peer pressure ithat entice you everyday.
I know it sounds lame, but truthfully, being modest is cooler than being immodest.
Galatians 5:23 (NIV)gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

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